You’ve come to a fork in the road. Every experience you’ve ever been through, everything you have dealt with, has to lead you to here.
You have reached a point in your life’s journey.
Wouldn’t it be amazing all these obstacles, every moment in your life has all been there to prepare you for today.
Which path will you choose to take?
It doesn’t matter what age or stage you are at, you can either choose to keep re-reading your book with the bad choices of the past and carrying the negativity around with you or take the path of turning that page and start to write the next chapter of your book.
You can start afresh it’s up to you.
It can take a long time to get to the point of wanting to bring more happiness in.
Your mind can create thousands of thoughts that are not doing you any good, of controlling thoughts and difficulties from the past.
Maybe carrying hatred or blame for someone or a situation. Obsessing with a darker period in your life, dwelling on disappointments and seeing yourself as a victim.
Recollecting and going over problems in childhood, abuse, relationships, violence, a dysfunctional past.
About 85% of families have been dysfunctional so you are not on your own.
You are not your past.
What are you going to do about it? Where are you going now?
Are you going to play the scratched record over and over again? Are you going to keep reading the book from the beginning and keep getting writers’ block when you get to the new blank page or do you take the pen in your hand and write the new story?
How can you change your life for the better?
Focus on what is right for you and not what is wrong. Start to move in small steps or strides it’s entirely up to you.
Write a list. What would it take to bring more happiness, fun and laughter into your life?
What would give you pleasure and make you feel good?
Be curious, be childlike.
Put yourself first. When you are feeling good and looked after, everyone else benefits too. When you feel good it reflects on to everyone else.
Every day is unique, everyday things look different.
It could be running a warm bath, lighting the candles and putting on your favourite music or even going for a nice stroll and getting some you time in the fresh air.
It’s not the size of the pleasure, it’s how it makes you feel.
Author and lifestyle consultant